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Avoid letting the how become your reason to procrastinate


Living intentionally


July 14 2023

What has happened in the past few months and what I want to have in my future has really made me relook at my business vision. (Yup! Just like I have a love vision for my relationship, I have one for my business, too.)

And this past Monday, I sat down and had quite an intervention with myself to confront the gaps between my current reality to my business vision⏤and it was so necessary!

Clarity helps you see things from different angles

I saw

…who I was when I first wrote that vision
……and how differently I am now.

…what parts of it felt like empty fluff phrases and lofty ideas implanted in my head by others and what I thought I should want
……and what I truly wanted for myself and my own life.

…who I wanted to be
……and what I needed to create to get there.

Things that didn’t resonate anymore jumped out at me as if they were neon lights flashing on a dark night. I scratched those out and rewrote them in words that felt truer to my own heart and soul. (That’s why reviewing and reworking your vision is such an important ongoing step for success.)

Things that resonated powered me further as motivation. It reminded me why I left my secure, well-paid corporate job to embark on this unknown and challenging path of entrepreneurship. (Feels so good to anchor in my why!)

Going through my business vision reminded me why this vision writing and reviewing process is so powerful. Once I got clear on my vision, the next steps of how to get there felt like the choiceless, natural next steps. I was fired up and inspired by what I wanted to work on next.

Sure, there were times I wasn’t fully sure why working on that project should’ve been my next priority. However, once I completed that part, the next step fell right into place and the reasons why I did that first surfaced quickly.

In the past, I would’ve sat there, read my vision, and wondered how the hell was I going to get there?! It felt like a million steps of impossible before that could’ve happened.

I felt like a dreamer writing a fairy tale. I would wonder, “Who the hell am I to want that?” and “How the hell am I going to do that?”

The how became my blocker

I tried to logically think through the steps. Then my fears and doubts surfaced, and I felt like I was carrying a ton of bricks on my back… until I just stopped and couldn’t move anymore. I couldn’t see the way forward, so I assumed it wasn’t possible for me.

The how turned into procrastination

Fright and freeze took over. Excuses and reasons piled up as to why I couldn’t continue on. I dabbed a little here and tried some stuff over there. “I’m still figuring it out” became my motto. *Cue all my procrastination habits* I allowed my distractions to keep me busy. I let my excuses hold me back from what I wanted.

The how distracted me from my inner truth

I sought after all the answers I could find externally. I bought into other people’s way of doing things because you don’t “reinvent the wheel”, right? Others are “successful”, so what they did must be the “right” way.

But this is the truth… their way was “right” for them, but it doesn’t mean it’s “right” for me.

What I initially saw/heard was the facade they put up, and when I dove deeper with them, I realized, “Wait, do I want their life? Is this really the model of success I wanted to follow?”

…and my answer was a big fat “noooooooooppppe”. (Ok, fine. Sometimes it would come out as a “hell noooooooo”.)

All that external chasing led me away from what I internally wanted and my own version of success. I already wrote out my vision, why didn’t I follow it?

Here’s what I learned

My vision already gave me the direction I needed to move toward. By keeping that vision top of mind, the solutions will surface.

I figure out the how as I continue taking action. How is the result, not a requirement to get started. The mindset of “needing to know the how” just turns into procrastination, avoidance, or derailment.

Sure, I can try to logically think through things with what I know now, but the answers are typically outside my current scope of knowledge.

Instead of “figuring out” all of the how during the planning stages, it’s more productive and effective to think through:

  • What is the ultimate result I’m looking to achieve with this new idea/project/goal?
  • Is this approach in alignment with my vision?
  • What are some potential sacrifices I’m willing to exchange for the results I want? And are these sacrifices ecological with the other areas of my life? Who or what would I need to talk to ahead of time because they’ll be affected by these sacrifices and changes?
  • What are the first 1-3 steps I can take to get started?

It’s ok that you don’t have all the answers right now

Learning is a part of the process, and every challenge is just an opportunity for growth and for better solutions to come your way. You don’t need to be perfect or have the perfect solution to just… get… started.

It’s ok to experiment and explore to see what works

Failure isn’t wrong or bad. It’s just giving you the feedback you need to figure out what to do next. See it as a breadcrumb that’s showing you the way. Detours are your opportunities to learn a skill or knowledge that’ll contribute to building a stronger foundation for your vision.

Keep focusing on what you need to do to take the very next step

It doesn’t matter how small or unsure you are. Just do something about it. All your tiny actions will build into greater momentum.

If you’re ever uncertain, review your vision again

Your vision is your North Star. Ignore the other voices and trust that your vision is your truth. The more belief and trust you feed your vision, the stronger it becomes, and the faster it becomes your current reality.

THAT is what successful people do, and THAT is how they found their way to their version of success.

It’s not just the how they did it, it’s what they had to believe in to create the success you desire and crave for yourself.

You want to break your procrastination habits and excuses from going after your goals?

You want to overcome the fear of the unknown and boost your motivation? 

You want to have that success you’ve always dreamed of?

Write out your vision, and do whatever it is you’re willing to do and sacrifice to make that into your reality.

The how will always find its way to you. Just keep holding onto the vision as your truth, and it will be yours.


Cheers to wisely navigating through the how dilemma and achieving your goals faster!

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Psst, the featured photo is by Jacqueline Brandwayn via Unsplash

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Kat Nieh is a dating clarity coach bringing more fun, trust, and openness back into dating. She helps single working professionals go on their last first date and find their soulmate app-free.

She has also published 3 books, is a best selling author, and has been featured on tv, podcasts, and media publications as a love expert.

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Kat Nieh is a dating clarity coach bringing more fun, trust, and openness back into dating. She helps single working professionals go on their last first date
and make those hard conversations easier.

She has also published 3 books, is a best selling author, and has been featured on tv, podcasts, and media publications as a love expert.

Get her freebie
"Find Your Soulmate Fast" here!

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