Not good enough is a dangerous belief

“Not good enough” is a dangerous drug

Category

Conscious coupling

DATE

March 26 2024

“Not good enough” is a dangerous drug.

WARNING: The use of those 3 words can cause mental and emotional harm and create long term damage to your confidence and self worth. Severe side effects include stopping you from pursuing what you want most, making you settle for less, and accepting poor treatment as your norm.

CAUTION: Risk of overdose and addiction to victimhood.

 

Here's a quick self assessment to determine the severity of your condition:

  • How often are you saying these words to yourself?
  • How often are you thinking some form of this in your head?
  • Have you been overdosing on this verbal and mental drug?
  • What hallucinations of victimhood have you been subjecting yourself to?
  • Are you noticing the damaging side effects this consumption has on you?

 

Say no to “not good enough”

What if you are enough just as you are?

You don't have to wait until xyz before you can start dating.
You don't have to be in a certain way to be loved.
You don't need to get someone else's validation to prove your worth.

Stop overly comparing yourself to others.
Stop putting yourself down based on the undefined parameters of enoughness.
Stop criticizing yourself for not doing enough, not having enough, or feeling not enough.

ENOUGH is ENOUGH!

Each of your thoughts, actions, and beliefs is like investing an energetic coin into what’s possible for you and what isn’t.

The more you invest…
The more momentum you’re building…
The greater the compounding effect sets in.

…and that result affects how you perceive your life and the world around you.

So which side have you been investing more of your energetic coins?

It’s never too late to change and reinvest.

 

Do this instead

↩️ Feed yourself with more love, hope, and possibilities

…instead of investing more into these excuses and limiting beliefs of your not-enoughness.

Fear keeps you small, hidden, and safely within your cozy comfort zone.

Love helps you come alive, be more confident, feel more expansive, and have the courage to go for more and be better.

Focus on the glass being half full. Focus on what's possible for you. Interrupt negative thinking, course correct, then focus, focus, focus.

What you focus on predominantly compounds. Repeating thoughts turn into beliefs. Repeating beliefs turn into your reality.

 

↩️ Consider the option of finding a partner who can grow with you

…instead of waiting until you’re fully ready, successful enough, fit enough, or healed enough.

You don’t need to be perfect. Perfection is daunting to achieve and intimidating to be compared to. Perfection doesn’t give you confidence. It impacts your self worth by creating a constant state of lack.

Plus, wouldn’t you rather be with someone who sees you just as you are and can weather the storms of life with you versus someone who chooses you for your perfection and only stays with you when things are good?

 

↩️ Consider the possibility that your partner sees you as more than enough

…instead of hiding or denying parts of yourself.

We’re all a little weird, and there’s someone else out there who has and embraces your type of weird, too. Denying those parts of you only hurts you in the long run. You can only keep up that facade for so long before it tears you up from within.

Be vulnerable and upfront about who you are, what you want, and what you believe in, especially in the early stages of dating and a relationship. When you feel seen and accepted, your confidence and self worth soar.

 

Enoughness is your choice

Your past experiences and hurt excessively manufacture this “not good enough” drug.

It’s easily accessible to consume, but its side effects are just too costly.

That is what’s keeping you single, alone, or in a relationship that’s not right for you.

 

The right person for you is out there waiting and searching for you, too.

The right relationship for you is waiting for you to create it.

It’s your choice as to where you invest those impactful energetic coins.

So stop numbing yourself and holding yourself back with this “not good enough” drug.

 

You are enough.
You are more than enough.

You deserve to be accepted and seen for who you are.
You deserve to be loved as you are.

You are lovable.

 

 

Cheers to feeling + being more than enough.

 

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Kat Nieh is a dating clarity coach bringing more fun, trust, and openness back into dating. She helps single working professionals go on their last first date and find their soulmate app-free.

She has also published 3 books, is a best selling author, and has been featured on tv, podcasts, and media publications as a love expert.

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Kat Nieh is a dating clarity coach bringing more fun, trust, and openness back into dating. She helps single working professionals go on their last first date
and find their soulmate app-free.

She has also published 3 books, is a best selling author, and has been featured on tv, podcasts, and media publications as a love expert.

Get her freebie
"Find Your Soulmate Fast" here!

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