I was getting riled up as I was writing this…
I had to step away and rewrite this Paper Plane multiple times, because this stirred up something within me.

I was engaging with another dating-focused account that, at times, pushes the narrative that the man should be the focus of the relationship. Blending with that undertone, he answered my comment with, “Two partners focused on the same goal will go much further than two individuals focused on their own separate goals.”

And here’s the distinction that I strongly needed to clarify:

“Two partners with the same RELATIONSHIP goals will go farther together, and it’s important to still honor each other's life/career goals.”

Being in a relationship isn't about serving one person's life/career goals. That's how resentment seeps in.

What both partners choose to do with their time outside of the relationship should also bring them fulfillment, or at least be encouraged to seek what fulfills them in whatever they choose.

Being in a relationship is about enhancing your life together, not about control or domination.

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean one person is wrapping their entire life around the other’s. You both still have your own interests and connections outside of your couple bubble.

Being in a relationship means you’re blending two lives together in a symbiotic way.

Being in a relationship means you’re continuously choosing each other, letting your partner see and experience the most intimate, unfiltered sides of you.

If you’re looking for a high-quality partner, then that also requires you to allow and accept them to be powerful in their own right, however they decide to express that.

If you want to be in an enriching relationship, then both partners need to grow individually and then bring what they've learned back to uplevel the relationship as a whole.

The more you respect and honor each other, the more fulfilling and empowering your relationship will be.

…and this just reinforces how important it is to define what kind of relationship YOU want to be in.

What I've described is my definition of a “power couple” and what a high quality relationship would look like for me.

Your love vision is different. Hey, even your definition of a power couple has its own flavor, too.

Ultimately, a high quality relationship is a relationship in which both people feel fulfilled and satisfied together. You both are aligned in your relationship goals together and actively developing who you both are (individually and as a couple) to have whatever that looks like together.

Now the exact details of what that looks like are unique to the both of you.

There's only what's right and wrong to you, not a universal right or wrong for everyone.

So it’s crucial to not only know what yours looks like but also have the conversations with your partner to make sure you understand theirs and how to work through any differences.

A high quality relationship is built through continuous communication and continual efforts to make sure you’re staying aligned through all of life’s changes, too.

The more clarity you both have, the easier and more effective these conversations will be.

…and THIS is what I’ve revolved my work around⏤how to help YOU have a high quality relationship where you can experience and enjoy better love.

And that is what I got me all passionately stirred up…

 

Cheers to being in a relationship where you feel respected, honored, and appreciated for who you are and what you bring to the relationship.

 

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